I promised a good friend of mine that I will post up this up once my computer recovers from the virus bug. This is actually from one of the chapters in “Tuesdays with Morrie”, but I will try to summarize it. Stay happy always!

Everyone must learn to detach themselves from their experience. Do not cling on to things, because everything is impermanent.

Everyone talks about experiencing life, all the good emotions and the bad ones. Taking in and keeping the memories you love and still do. And you may wonder, how do you do that if you are detached? Well, detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it.

Take any emotion – love for someone, or grief for a loved one, or fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions and don’t allow yourself to go through them, you can never be detached. You are too busy being afraid. You are afraid of the pain, you are afraid of the grief. You are afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.

But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and complete. You know what pain is, you know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, “All right, I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment. When you learn how to lose, you learn how to gain.