My dear,

Its not your fault that things did not work out. Things happen for a reason, and I believe that there will be someone out there who will appreciate you much more. Although I know that whatever I say now may seem redundant to you, I hope that you will pull yourself together because all of us love you. Below are 2 previous posts dedicated to you. Hope that
you can take heart from them. Cheer up!

1. Here is something to share with you guys. An excerpt from a Nicholas Sparks novel, "Nights in Rodanthe". This was an advice given by the mum to her daughter when she lost her husband.

"You are stronger than you think you are, but only if you want to be. It is not easy, but you must understand that I am not talking about your emotions. Those you cant control. You are still going to cry, you are still going to have moments when you dont feel you can go on. But you have to act as if you can. At a time like this, actions are just about the only things you can control.

2. Everyone must learn to detach themselves from their experience. Do not cling on to things, because everything is impermanent.Everyone talks about experiencing life, all the good emotions and the bad ones. Taking in and keeping the memories you love and still do. And you may wonder, how do you do that if you are detached? Well, detachment does not mean you do not let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That is how you are able to leave it. Take any emotion such as love for someone, or grief for a loved one, or fear and pain from a deadly illness. If you hold back on the emotions and do not allow yourself to go through them, you can never be detached. You are too busy being afraid. You are afraid of the pain, you are afraid of the grief. You are afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and complete. You know what pain is, you know what love is. You know what grief is. And only then can you say, "All right, I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment." When you learn how to lose, you learn how to gain.